I'm sure at some point this school year, we will repost this and include more that we have found along the way.
“We need to teach them to take a breath before they post online, just like we teach them to take a breath before they talk back to us, a teacher, a coach or a friend. We need to teach them that not every status needs to be commented on. That not every thought needs to be shared. That not every event needs to be documented. We need to teach them that it’s okay to walk away sometimes, and how to step into and out of a situation as necessary.”
I couldn’t agree more with the above. As you read the article, it does suggest letting our kids on social media at a young age so as parents we may have a greater influence on their behavior. I’m not sure if I agree with the part of letting kids on social media before the word “teen” is associated with their age. I do agree that whether you actually let them use the technology or not, you should be talking about it.
Well, after watching this brief video I wanted to go delete every facebook post, every picture posted, every text, just everything! I don’t consider myself very social media savvy. In fact, it is always a goal of mine to get more in touch with what our kids are using and what else is out there. It’s hard to keep up. I am sure there are many other experts with opinions out there on this very topic, but I think this is great one to keep in mind for us as adults but more importantly to share with our kids!
Why Your Kids Love Snapchat, and Why You Should Let Them
Teens and Social Media - Experts say kids are growing up with more anxiety and less self-esteem
Screentime is making kids moody, crazy and lazy
Decoding Teen Talk: What Your Children Are Really Saying - there are so many, it is impossible to keep up but this list is a good start to be on top of what kids are really saying!
How technology is affecting sleep
“I was addicted to what others thought of me, simply because it was so readily available,” she wrote. “I was severely addicted. I believed how many likes and followers I had correlated to how many people liked me. I didn’t even see it happening, but social media had become my sole identity. I didn’t even know what I was without it.”
"When adolescents lurk online, what do they see? If they are scrolling through Instagram, they likely see highly groomed, curated, filtered pictures strategically posted at a time of day when peers will be online so as to attract the maximum number of likes and comments. One student in our study told us she takes over 100 selfies (pictures of herself) to get one she likes well enough to post."
"Youth who are less socially secure, who might be vulnerable to feeling lonely or sad or socially anxious, likely face several perils of lurking online. First, the more time they spend lurking, the more likely they are to observe friends having a wonderful time without them. In our study, nearly half said they had felt excluded by seeing social media posts about friends doing things together without them, and more disturbingly, over a third said they themselves had posted on social media in ways that made others feel excluded."