Only through trial and error can children become resilient adults.
“Not learning to tolerate failure leaves kids vulnerable to anxiety. It leads to meltdowns when the inevitable failure does occur, whether it happens in preschool or college. And perhaps even more important, it can make kids give up trying—or trying new things.
That's why Michael Jordan, one of the world's greatest athletes, has spent years preaching the importance of losing. Jordan has spoken extensively about how perseverance and resilience in the face of challenges on and off the court are what have made him a winner.
Unfortunately, as the world puts increased pressure on kids to be winners, and parents feel compelled to enable them in every way possible, we're seeing more and more kids who become distraught over even the smallest misstep.”
"This article is a brief attempt to wave the flag for a less controlled and more holistic approach to raising teenagers. It is a little reminder for us all that failure, mistakes, and disappointment play an important and inevitable role in life, and therefore should be allowed for and acknowledged rather than avoided and downplayed."
Here is another article that I came across this weekend -
Talking About Failure: What Parents Can Do to Motivate Kids in School
Prior to working at Westlake, I worked at the University of Texas' Counseling and Mental Health Center. I naturally saw a large amount of students in high distress but a common theme among them were that they were high performing kids who, for whatever reason, had sailed through high school and then their first stumbling block in college, big or small, had the power to completely destroy them. These students had never learned how to get back up! Their resiliency factor was zero. Thus began the work of developing the coping skills needing to sit with the disappointment of failure but also learn how to soothe and support yourself back on to the road of success. The desire to share these skills and their importance to high school kids was a huge motivation to make the switch to high school. The common goal among all parents is for their kids to be happy, as strange as it sounds, sometimes letting them fall is exactly the way to do it!