I like the idea of the “love challenge” that was shared in this article – “Each one offers something simple you can do to improve your relationships, open yourself up to new ones, or nurture your relationship with yourself.”
I also love the list of 25 (see below) supportive, loving things to tell yourself today! This would also be a great list to use with our kids or significant other.
"We all deserve to hear these things—from others and ourselves:
2. When you need something to believe in, start with yourself.
3. I’ll always be here for you. I love you unconditionally.
4. You deserve to be happy.
5. You look beautiful.
6. Don’t be afraid—you are good enough.
7. I believe you are very capable of taking care of yourself, with or without someone else to take care of you.
8. Anything you can imagine is possible. The only thing to fear is fear itself.
9. Everything will be okay. Even if its not, it will be.
10. You are enough as you are.
11. You are an individual and are perfect the way you are now.
12. You can do anything you set your mind to.
13. It’s okay to make a mistake.
14. I believe in you.
15. You tried—that’s good enough.
16. I’m proud of you.
17. You don’t need permission from anyone to dream and explore your interests and passions.
18. You have a beautiful soul.
19. You are safe.
20. You’re doing great.
21. You can do anything.
22. I want the best for you.
23. You’re handling it beautifully.
24. You are awesome, kid.
25. I love and accept you no matter what.
Imagine a world full of people who believe in themselves, encourage themselves, and forgive themselves for their mistakes."
Try it for week... or even a few days. Do you feel any different? Is it hard to shift your thinking to focus only on the positive?
Try to only acknowledge the positive, supportive and loving things that our kids or significant other is doing. I bet they feel different after a week and hopefully you do too!